The moment you take your first breath of ZED’s air and a mid-wife says, “It’s a boy!” you know you’re in for a lifetime of expectation. Because being a Zambian man is an indictment of how you’ll probably repeat or remix the mistakes of your father, presidents, brother or friends. As a man, you will […]
Do you have a loose 5k?
You’ll be at home on a Friday evening with your family or alone. You receive a phone call from your friend. In the background, inebriated baddies are singing along to some promiscuity-inducing hit song and your friend screams into your ear, “Boi, do you have a loose five thousand? Payable month end!” Zambians have been […]
Rich Men’s Jokes Are NOT That Funny!
…. but how will you feed your family if youdon’t laugh? Have you seen how men behave around a rich man? Think Freedom Sikazwe-style laughter and worse, having nothing to offer in return. Because we do it. Prostitute our self worth and decency to a man with money in the bank in exchange for maybe […]
Friends With Benefits
These modern kids call it “friends with benefits”. In essence, you get to enjoy the benefit of a woman’s companionship without months long due diligence or extortionate KYC. You see each other when you can, don’t owe each other birthday gifts or good morning texts. Quite a fascinating concept, this. One that men these days […]
Make It Till You Fake It.
Zambian men refuse to celebrate their wins because we’ve been conditioned to think that every other man is struggling, and we cannot rub our achievements in their face. The Zambian man’s humility is nothing more than a successful national program to limit him from enjoying the fruits of his labour. You’d think it is illegal […]
Life is a Black Friday!
It can be quite disheartening when Black Friday rolls into town and you’ve got barely enough to see you through the day. Lining up to purchase inanimate objects may have its detractors but the modern man will always have a bargain to spend his hard-earned money on. a masterclass on how to dig a hole. It’s […]
Die Hard!
Written By James Chona “I wouldn’t be here if you didn’t fire me.” These words, spoken to me some 13 years ago during a memorable lunch, have stayed with me ever since. A former colleague, dismissed for running a side business, had turned that setback into a stepping stone, thriving in the very business that […]
Aren’t You Tired of All These Masterclasses?
You might have more passport stamps than I do but nowhere in your travels have you seen a gravedigger hosting a masterclass on how to dig a hole. It’s because men’s success has been hijacked into showmanship about what you do at work and not what it helps you do in life. See, nobody hoards […]
We’re Here for the Comments, Never the Solutions
Has it occurred to you that men are not as rabid as they used to be toward a woman they considered improperly dressed? Make no mistakes about it, this still happens but something has tamed their temperament not only toward women but life in general. What do you think happened to those boys that catcalled […]
The Joy That Comes From Giving
Often are times we take for granted the things we feel are not worth appreciating. Some say happiness lies in our hands, but how is that? Is it By giving… even the little we think is not worth could be worth it to the next person. Giving cheerfully allows individuals to see the direct impact […]