No, it’s not what you think. The question is, at what point in Zambia’s history has this place been flowing with milk and honey? Aren’t we the same men that have had to deal with meal coupons in the 80s, miners buried alive every other year and the horrors of privatization? To be a Zambian […]
You’re Never Too Old – Or Young – To Mess Up
Men used to wait until their flag was flying at half-mast and their head was balding. Modern day mid-life crisis is no longer the preserve of the retiree or 50-something year old man. It’s creeping up on men at the peak of their powers, youthful and full of so much promise. We tend to want […]
Position vs. Purpose: Why Your Worth Isn’t Tied to a Job Title.
Penned by James Chona Many of us have experienced it and I am actually experiencing it as we speak– the phone calls slow down after leaving a role or position. Suddenly, those connections seem to fade, and it feels like our relevance is tied to that important position we once held. People who once called […]
Do You Really Work Well Under Pressure?
The modern man’s CV is thing of beauty, isn’t it? Among the gems are standard lines like being ‘a team player’, ‘working well under pressure’ and ‘a results-oriented individual’. Quite nice. So, how does this play out in real life? The duality of modern man is that he has to be an undertaker during the […]
What’s The Equivalent of Flowers For Men?
Universal wisdom dictates that getting flowers for a woman is a small but meaningful gesture to show how much you care about her. So, then, what’s the common practice when it comes to appreciating a man? Do we even notice when we’ve been shown some love or appreciation? Let’s not lie to each other, we […]
Zambian Men Are Not Flashy ENOUGH!
There are certain things men used to do. They’d send a smoke signal if they were in distress or to warn another man of a dangerous beast on the loose. There was a system for warning one another of danger or opportunity. The most help we lend to one another today is when we flash […]
Don’t Believe The Hype
A Zambian man will try what he can to put a meal on the table. From getting into the transport business with a Toyota Hiace minibus to hosting motivational conferences in 2024. We are inclined to go where the money is. That’s why within minutes of meeting a guy that was begging you to buy […]
Chilli or No Chilli
Those familiar with it will know that when you’re at any Hungry Lion counter, you’ll be asked one iconic question. Chilli or no chilli? While this is simply a choice as to the flavour of your meal, it is a daily decision for men. And it’s instructive about who you are as a man and […]
You can’t teach masculinity
Some things become second nature even without being natural. Explain how multiple generations have maintained the inexplicable tendency to randomly stop a whole showroom vehicle and urinate in public? I mean, look at how we pick up our habits. There’s no rite of passage or module on how you’re supposed to convert every tree, wall […]
Like an Airbus on Autopilot
Do you see how we implode like Arsenal FC in April after the breakdown of a relationship or marriage and the death of a spouse? Zambian man is like an Airbus on autopilot once home comforts become familiar. This is underlined by his failure to flourish in the aftermath of romantic routine. Suddenly, you have […]