The only time a man gets a free pass is when he takes his child to the under five clinic. There, men are celebrated for taking their children for regular check-ups and immunization. You’re placed ahead of the queue to reward you for being a present dad. Outside of that, men don’t get anything for […]
You’re Not Angry. You’re a Man.
Now that you’re a grown man, there are things that seem to be circling back into your orbit. No, it’s not the ghastly return of cargo pants. It’s the way you’re becoming just like your father, uncle or grandfather. We men are all the same, aren’t we? A popular perception is that our fathers, uncles […]
Rise to the occasion and stand firm.
Now that you’re a grown man, there are things that seem to be circling back into your Ma fella, let’s talk about something that affects every Zambian man’s well-being. The ability to rise to the occasion when life demands it. No, not that occasion when the flag flies at half mast. Guest Commentor: Michelo Mukata […]
Punching Above Your Weight.
Most of us know a man or two who is with a partner that society would say is ‘too good for him’. Fascinating concept, this. To look at two people and decode that one of them is pulling the other down and not that one is lifting the other. At the bar, it’s called punching […]
Astronomer Inc. and the Implications of the “Coldplay Affair”
By Ceaser Siwale Background Astronomer Inc. is a prominent player in the data orchestration space, providing a unified DataOps platform powered by Apache Airflow to enable enterprises to manage complex data pipelines for AI, analytics, and real-time applications. Founded in 2015, the company has grown into a unicorn-status entity but has recently faced leadership turmoil […]
The Devil is in the Duality
Experts with PhDs framed on the walls of their homes or offices will tell you that opening up is one way of dealing with your problems head on and keeping the beast of self harm or suicide at bay. We must open up as men about the things that are eating us alive. Talk to […]
Turning Water Into Wine.
Unless profoundly delusional, a man will know when it’s time to leave the stage. Younger, shrewd executives, faster athletes, edgier, handsome and better dressed men in the club or open plan office. Everywhere you look, you’re yesterday’s man. This is when a man realizes that he’s no longer the bee’s knees. His moment in the […]
We Did This To Each Other
It’s lost on us just how much damage we’ve done to one another’s mental health. That we’re constantly in this overt competition for whose is faster, bigger, prettier. The male ego is a dancefloor filler, where every one of us has shuffled to a tune or two. We like to ask each other: “Where are […]
Why We Stop Talking.
In our sunset years, sometimes sooner, we stop talking. We only offer an opinion when it is asked of us. We take action only when we are called upon. As we get older, it dawns on us that masculinity is invisible until it’s needed. Look at how the older, unfashionable men come through in times […]
When Grief Grips A Man
By Luu Machila I was over 800 kilometres away from home when, just the first night upon arrival, word reached me announcing the passing of my brother, Cheelo Machila, at only 34 years. The world stopped spinning. My mouth was dry, my brain paused, hands and legs were numb. My faith was put to the […]