Male loneliness is not the absence of people in our lives. It’s the presence of people that we cannot talk to about our struggles. Sometimes we overthink these things. That there is some future out there that rewards men for being men. Look, the reality is you will have to familiarize yourself with your favourite […]
“Let Me Ask My Wife.”
In corporate, when you hear “Let me ask my superiors” or the “I’ll present this to the team” variant, just know it’s a no. In entrepreneurship, “Let me check in with my business partners” means you should move on. For a man, “Let me ask my wife” also means no but it also means much […]
Please, Not Another Marathon!
Men are running in all the races, every week, every month. What’s the plan? Every urban Zambian man and his dog is now running a marathon. It seems there’s one every other weekend in the country. So with all this – at times performative – running around, what’s the true benefit to our health and […]
One Day You’ll Say “No”
The provision pandemic continues to fwemba the modern Zambian man by the shat. Society has seen a loophole in man’s role as provider and is unapologetic about having him on his toes to provide, even at the risk of his own wellbeing. Go ahead. Say ‘No’ to the guys. Say you won’t make it for […]
Women In Space
By Ceaser Siwale $11 million spent. 11 minutes in space. But at what expense? This week, the first-ever commercial spaceflight crew made up entirely of women soared into space.The media called it “historic.”Socials called it “feminist.”Headlines called it a “win for women.”But was it really? This was the crew: • Lauren Sánchez – Jeff Bezos’ fiancée • […]
Men Are Covers, Women Are Books…Modern Masculinity Is Judged And Slotted Into Categories We Didn’t Sign Up For.
The moment you take your first breath of ZED’s air and a mid-wife says, “It’s a boy!” you know you’re in for a lifetime of expectation. Because being a Zambian man is an indictment of how you’ll probably repeat or remix the mistakes of your father, presidents, brother or friends. As a man, you will […]
Do you have a loose 5k?
You’ll be at home on a Friday evening with your family or alone. You receive a phone call from your friend. In the background, inebriated baddies are singing along to some promiscuity-inducing hit song and your friend screams into your ear, “Boi, do you have a loose five thousand? Payable month end!” Zambians have been […]
Rich Men’s Jokes Are NOT That Funny!
…. but how will you feed your family if youdon’t laugh? Have you seen how men behave around a rich man? Think Freedom Sikazwe-style laughter and worse, having nothing to offer in return. Because we do it. Prostitute our self worth and decency to a man with money in the bank in exchange for maybe […]
Friends With Benefits
These modern kids call it “friends with benefits”. In essence, you get to enjoy the benefit of a woman’s companionship without months long due diligence or extortionate KYC. You see each other when you can, don’t owe each other birthday gifts or good morning texts. Quite a fascinating concept, this. One that men these days […]
Make It Till You Fake It.
Zambian men refuse to celebrate their wins because we’ve been conditioned to think that every other man is struggling, and we cannot rub our achievements in their face. The Zambian man’s humility is nothing more than a successful national program to limit him from enjoying the fruits of his labour. You’d think it is illegal […]