What’s The Equivalent of Flowers For Men? 

Universal wisdom dictates that getting flowers for a woman is a small but meaningful gesture to show how much you care about her. So, then, what’s the common practice when it comes to appreciating a man? Do we even notice when we’ve been shown some love or appreciation?

Let’s not lie to each other, we absolutely love the idea that we are appreciated and our efforts as partners, sons or fathers do not go unnoticed. 

We’ve heard the age-old saying that we should give people their flowers while they can smell them. But only a handful of us are alright with having a bouquet of beautiful red roses delivered to a road construction site with men pushing wheelbarrows and carrying cement. 

Men may not want flowers but definitely want what they represent. A recognition of their role.

Our flowers are not a golf set or toolbox delivered to our place of work. That’s something for a big milestone – a birthday, anniversary, retirement or promotion at work. Our red roses are the things we do not anticipate. 

When we give flowers to a woman, we do it to remind her of her special place in our lives. What would be the reciprocal gesture that has us feeling the same way she does when a bouncing bouquet arrives in the office and her co-workers look on in envy or with a smile? 

Are we even comfortable with other men seeing us as loved and appreciated by our partners? Are we still cultivating indifference to it all? 

None of you ever confide in each other to say you wish your girlfriend or wife did something you’ve seen your friend’s partner do for them. It’s not a masculine thing to do, is it? 

Deep down, you yearn for the random phone call from her to say she’s thinking of you and how well you’re leading the family, providing a positive presence for the children or supporting her dreams. 

Unless you’re doing nothing to warrant that sort of phone call. Right? Hello? Can you hear me? Must be the poor network. 

Have you ever received the equivalent of flowers in your life? Do you even notice when she’s gifted you her appreciation for who you are or the better man you’re working hard to become?

Maybe it’s the random meal she packs for you in the morning (the one you share with your work wife). Or the full tank in your vehicle when she happens to drive your car that day? 

But we’ve also made it difficult to be appreciated. The way we don’t notice she’s prepared our favourite meal, while we chew like a forklift gearbox and don’t say thank you? 

That’s how you would feel if you sent her roses and she didn’t say a word about it. 

Listen. You do get your flowers from time to time. It’s just that they’re rarely … flowers.